The Helping Trap

A Parent’s guide - for when your child struggles with their appearance

How to recognise when your support helps, and when it might unintentionally make things more complicated

"It took me several years to finally understand that my help, wasn't helping. I'm determined to support other parents who are going through what we once did."

When your child, teenager, or young adult is struggling with appearance anxiety, it’s completely natural to want to make things better.

Most parents try reassurance, protection, avoiding triggers, or stepping in to help, often with a great deal of love and care.

And yet, many parents find themselves feeling confused and distressed when their efforts don’t seem to help, or when things appear to become more intense over time.

This short video is offered as a pause.

It’s not a programme, and it’s not about fixing anything.

It’s simply an opportunity to understand a little more about why appearance anxiety behaves differently from other worries —and why even our best intentions can sometimes feel as though they aren't helping.

When a child or teenager is distressed about their appearance, it can be hard for parents to know how to respond.

Created by mother and son psychotherapists who have personal lived experience of body dysmorphic disorder (BDD), this free guide is designed to help you understand the bigger picture of what may be happening for your child who is showing signs of appearance anxiety.

We’re Jennie and Adam — mother and son, and both psychotherapists.

Adam experienced body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) as a young person,

and our family lived through the confusion, fear, and isolation that so many parents carry.

His recovery took time, specialist support, and there was a great deal of learning along the way.

Today, Adam incorperates his lived experience of BDD into his work supporting others,

and Jennie with her live experience of being the parent of a teenager and young adult who suffered with BDD also supports individuals and families affected by appearance anxiety and BDD.

We created this video because far too many parents are left trying to work things out alone, without clear, compassionate information or support.

Our mission is to offer the kind of help that we wish had been available when Adam was suffering.

You can find us here: www.bddclinic.org

or contact us at: [email protected]

You don’t need to take notes.

You don’t need to make decisions.

You don’t need to act on anything straight away.

Sometimes, simply understanding what may be happening beneath the surface can reduce pressure, for parents and for young people too.

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